Since the time when the first edition of this book went to press, we have discovered that certain chapter titles are misleading. For instance, while the title of this chapter is fun, it should have been "breasts, breasts, breasts." That's because for many women, the part of their breast that they prefer having kissed and caressed is between the neck and nipples as opposed to the nipples themselves. Plastic surgeons discovered this when they were doing studies of sensation in women's beasts.
There are two other breast chapters in this book, "The Historical Breast & Bra" and "Sex & Breast Cancer." This chapter talks about ways of using your fingers and mouth to caress your partner's breasts. Plenty of women and men have mega nerve endings in their nipples, chests and breasts. The sensations can be both pleasant and annoying.
For instance, one woman might find it heavenly when a lover barely breathes on her nipples, but convulses in pain if he is the slightest bit rough. So her partner learns to traverse her tender nipples like a butterfly and becomes a master at the art of subtle stimulation. Another woman wants her lover to handle her nipples with authority and doesn't find it erotic until his lips latch on like an industrial vacuum cleaner. Also, some women's breasts become more sensitive during certain stages of their menstrual cycle, especially if they are taking birth control pills. Know your lover's body and be sensitive to it. And don't assume it's the nipple that do the trick when it might be the area a couple of inches above or to the side of the nipple.
In our society, it is assumed that men are the ones who stimulate women's chests instead of it being a mutual experience. Too bad. Guys have the same variation in nipple and chest sensitivity as women. Some men get an erection and nearly come when their nipples are caressed. For some, it seems to enhance their orgasm if a partner sucks on or caresses a nipple at the same time that they are coming.
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