Some women enjoy giving oral sex to a man. It provides them with feelings of intimacy and closeness that can be both soothing and erotic. It also provides a feeling of power and control. Other women don't find anything special about doing oral sex, but will go down on a guy if he enjoys it. And some women would rather suck on a rusty old pipe than let their lips stray south of a man's beltline.
Whatever your preference, this chapter offers tips and techniques about giving oral sex to the male of the species. It starts with a candid discussion about male ejaculate and then offers techniques for giving splendid blowjobs. It also includes suggestions for the man who is receiving oral sex—things he can do to help make it a neat experience for both partners.
Straight women often get the feeling that they need to swallow a guy's ejaculate in order to give a truly fine blowjob. If this were true, you'd think it would apply just as much in the gay community, where the giver of the blowjob knows exactly what it feels like to receive a blowjob. But that's not true. Gay guys don't always swallow when giving blowjobs. As one gay male reader says, "No way am I going to do all that work getting a partner to come and not watch him ejaculate. Besides, I don't exactly love the taste."
Of course, you might love swallowing your man's gonad glue. But do it only because you want to and not because there's some Emily Post of Blowjobs who says it has to be.
Considering what happens if you suck on a penis for long enough, a woman who gives oral sex eventually has to decide if she wants to swallow ejaculate. While some women don't mind swallowing, others find it weird. For many women the salient factors are how they feel about the guy and how they feel within the relationship. For others, it's a matter of taste and texture.
Different guys come in different flavors. They also have different textures and volumes. One man's ejaculate might be viscous while another's is thin. One might taste good while another tastes bitter or salty, or as a female reader states: "My current lover tastes great, I like swallowing his ejaculate. But when my former boyfriend came, it felt like battery acid in the back of my mouth." Another reader comments that she has no problem with the taste or texture of male ejaculate, but that it sometimes upsets her stomach. A British sex expert with a Margaret Thatcher-like voice says that male ejaculate is an acquired taste, like swallowing raw oysters. She says it's nothing to get worked up over. We're not so sure, given how nobody around here likes swallowing raw oysters. As for the smell of male ejaculate, it's like a weak solution of Clorox—original scent rather than Lemon Fresh or Spring Rain. It also smells like alfalfa sprouts.
Who knows what to advise about swallowing male ejaculate, except that a man shouldn't push the issue unless he is willing to swallow a mouthful of his own, although the actual amount is closer to a teaspoonful. Suggestions for how to give a really good blowjob without swallowing are listed later in this chapter.
(continued in the book. Also, while the word "fellatio" is not mentioned in this chapter, we include fellatio here for search engine purposes.)
