Having powerful feelings for a woman can leave some men with an insatiable need to kiss and lick her genitals. It's hard to explain why, but it's a primal need that can be triggered by a mere wink of her eye. Other men are happy to give a woman oral sex because it pleases her sexually, but aren't really into it. And some men would rather lick a cat.
Whatever your preference, this chapter is loaded with tips and techniques for giving a woman all of the oral pleasure her heart and thighs could possibly desire.
It's a funny thing about oral sex, at least when you are a guy on the giving end. The woman whom you are giving oral sex to, a person whom you know and often love, sometimes just disappears. All that's left is a strange, twitching, moaning protoplasm which only partially resembles the person who was there just minutes ago. You are left virtually alone, with your tongue feeling like it's running the Boston Marathon. You might as well be talking to Elvis. After it's over, you might want to ask, "Hey, where did you go?" but you learn not to because she'll usually just give you a big smile and want to curl up in your arms.
A female reader offers a possible explanation. She says that when she is receiving oral sex, she isn't as aware of her partner's presence, so it's easier to let her fantasies run wild. She wouldn't necessarily want to tell him "where she went," since her fantasy might have been with someone else. Little does she know, guys who are sexually secure might get off on hearing about her fantasy escapades, no matter who they are with.
For the past year, we have been asking women survey takers on The Guide's website if they had to choose between receiving oral sex and intercourse, which would it be. We assumed it would be an even split. No one anticipated that close to 95 out of every 100 women would say intercourse, hand's down. The deciding factor was intimacy over orgasms.
Of course, we also posed the question "Sex or chocolate?" and expected a 50-50 split, so what do we know? It turned out 97% for sex. Fortunately, when we have asked women specific questions about receiving oral sex, it has been abundantly clear that many love to receive the act. And of those who don't, about half were concerned about the way they might taste, smell, or the way their labia look. So before this chapter starts to yodel at your sweetheart's yoni, it looks at her labia.
Most carpet munchers know that some vulvas taste great, while others don't leave fond memories. Beyond that, men are fairly useless when it comes to discussing genital taste. Lesbian and bisexual women, however, will talk your ear off about the subject of how women taste. Their comments follow. But first, a brief discussion about female genital chemistry and what can help.
(Continued in the book. Also, while the word "cunnilingus" is not mentioned in this chapter, we include cunnilingus here for search engine purposes.)
