Given how sex fantasies are nearly universal, it's surprising that we tend to be embarrassed about them. On the other hand, why bother fantasizing about things that everyone else approves of?
Some people know they're horny because of the sexual fantasies they've been having. For others, horniness is something they feel in their bodies, with very little mental imagery. Some people have a single reliable sex fantasy that they go back to time and again. Others have a virtual toolbox of scenes and images that help get them off. The vast majority of people have fantasies during intercourse, and a lot people find it difficult to masturbate to orgasm without an arousing sexual fantasy.
The content of sex fantasies varies; some are sweet, kind and silly; others are weird, kinky and bizarre. Some are action-packed and exciting; others are really boring. Some sex fantasies are populated with past lovers, rock 'n' roll singers, people in uniforms, movie stars, teachers, priests, family members, total strangers and even furry friends from another species. Believe it or not, one of the most popular sex fantasies involves doing stuff with your current partner! As for scenarios that people fantasize about, here's a partial list:
Being held or cuddled; doing all kinds of sex acts; having sex with more than one partner; having anonymous sex with a highly attractive partner or partners; being forced to have sex; watching a partner have sex with someone else; having gay sex when you otherwise feel straight; having sex with a male/female couple; role reversal where a guy fantasizes he's a woman having sex with other guys, or a woman fantasizes she's a man having sex with other women; watching or being watched having sex; being the one who dominates; being adored, desired, spanked, tortured, shamed or humiliated.
(This chapter is continued in the book.)
