This chapter is about kissing on the upper body as opposed to kissing on the genitals, although one often leads to the other. A lot of couples mix the two together—a little peck, a little suck, a little peck, a little suck. Sometimes kissing is used as a starter, to help stir up your body fluids for what's to follow. Other times, kissing is all there is.
Kissing can be awkward at times, especially at the start. But even if your lips are so experienced they could dock space shuttles for NASA, you might find some helpful reminders in the pages that follow.
It's funny how kissing a partner on the lips usually makes more of an emotional statement than kissing him or her on the genitals, even if the latter sometimes feels better. For instance, one of the official Goofy-Foot advisors, who makes her living by having sex with different men, reports that she won't let anyone other than her husband kiss her on the lips.
It's also interesting how when a relationship starts to go sour, couples usually stop kissing on the lips long before they stop having intercourse.
There are reasons why lip-locking is sometimes more intimate than getting into a partner's pants. Much as we might hate it, from the moment we are born, most of us are kissed constantly by moms, dads, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and anyone else whose approaching lips we can't successfully dodge. Being kissed on the lips, cheeks and top of the head symbolizes a profound love that we hopefully come into the world experiencing.
Another reason for the added power of kissing is so many of the major senses have their outlets on the human face. There is vision, smell, hearing, and taste. And the lips and skin are exquisitely sensitive to touch. There are, in fact, so many sensory centers located on or near the human face that we have terms such as "You're in my face" or "Get out of my face" to express annoyance or social discomfort. (Interestingly, the ability to have an orgasm is not considered one of the basic senses, although it overwhelms the other senses when it happens.)
Kissing is often a prelude to other things, but there are plenty of times when kissing is all you get. Like when you are sixteen and necking all night long. Or when you are older but want to feel like you are sixteen. Don't for a moment think that monster make-out sessions are kids' stuff. Some people experience these as hotter than much of the intercourse they've had.
If all you plan on doing is making out, be sure to put your gum in a safe place where you can find it afterward. It will help take the edge off until you can go home and masturbate.
